CHAPTER 4 - THE SELF

Who are you?

What represents you?

How does others think of you?

Why are you, you?

When did you become, you?

Where will you become you?

Self-Concept

Your self-concept is your image of who you are. 

It's how you perceive your feelings and thoughts about your strengths and weakness, your abilities and limitations.  

• Social Comparison
• Other's images on you
• Self Interpretations and evalutions
• Cultural teaching

Self-Awareness

Self-awareness is the ability to discover things are known about yourselves and a process of discovering your personal development and understanding.

Self-Esteem

Self-esteem is a measure of how valuable you think you are. 

People with high self-esteem think very highly of themselves, whereas people with low-esteem view themselves negatively.

How to increase your self esteem?

• Attack self-destructive belief
• Seek out nourishing people 
• Work on project that will result in success
• Remind yourself of your success
• Secure affirmation

It is always good to have high self-esteem, but don't have overly high self-esteem that it becomes self-destructive beliefs. 

Self-Disclosure

Self-disclosure is an act of telling others about things that they wouldn't know about you - telling your hidden self.

Factors  influencing self disclosure:

• Who you are
• Your culture 
• Your gender
• Your listeners
• Your topic and chanel

Self-Disclosure's advantages:

• Gain confidence
• Be more truthful about yourself
• Make or strengthen relationship

Self-Disclosure's disadvantages:

• Lost of friends and trust
• Additional pressure and burden
• Living with regret

Class Activity 

Mr. Anwar asked us to write down the characteristic of those who have high self esteem and low self esteem. Below is some of the answer answered by students.

High self esteem: More confidence, more socialize, more active, more brave...

Low self esteem: Less confidence, less communication, more cowardly...

Besides, Mr. Anwar also asked our friends to define each of us. In this fun activity, me and my friends relationship increased and we know each other more well.