Chapter 6(a) - Non Verbal Communication

Winking is a form of nonverbal communication.

NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION

What is it?????

Well based on our understanding, it is communication without words.
There is no need to speak.


Nonverbal messages have many functions and some of the are defining relationship, expressing emotions, forming and managing impressions.
There are a total of 6 functions but that three functions are the easiest to remember because we use it in daily.

Defining relationship is a function that we use everyday.
For example, when we talk to lecturer we will always be polite and smile.

We can use nonverbal communication to express ourselves too.
If we are sad we will cry.
If we are happy we will laugh.
If we are stressed out, we will frown.
If our friends did a good job in something, we give a thumb up.

Besides, we also use nonverbal message in forming and managing expressions.
Sometimes we will avoid eye contact with people when we did something wrong.
Like in the class when the lecturer is asking a question, everyone will avoid eye contact and pretend that they are busy.

The other three functions are integrating nonverbal and verbal messages, structuring conversation and influencing and deceiving.

Structuring conversation is like in a conversation, we will give and receive cues.
Those cues are signals that we are listening or to speak.
Often people will nod.

For the influencing and deceiving, we can influence by offering support or affirming a statement.
We can use nonverbal gestures to influence others to follow our beliefs and ideas.
We can also deceive people by winking. We might use winking as a signal to another friend to cover a "white lie" which means that person already know you are lying to someone else.

During the lecture, Mr. Anwari mentioned that they are many channels of nonverbal communication.

• Body messages
• Spatial messages
• Artifactual communication
• Touch communication
• Paralanguage
• Time communication
• Eye
• Silence
• Facial
• Smell

I think that the channels that we frequently use are body messages, facial communication and eye communication.

There are 5 types of body movement.

• Emblems - thumbs up for good job
• Illustrators - holding up two fingers to say you will be back in two hours
• Regulators - Glancing at watch to indicate you have to leave
• Affect displays - Smiling, crying
• Adaptors - rubbing your nose

Facial communication

• Intensifying - feel surprised
• Deintensifying - covering up joy
• Neutralizing - cover up sadness
• Masking - pretend to be happy
• Simulating - express emotions that you don't really feel.